You Don't Have to Talk About It
By Ijeoma Oluo
Hey, little sister or brother. If something has happened to you. If someone has hurt you, or is hurting you. If someone is making you uncomfortable every day, if someone is doing something to your body—I hope you have someone to talk to. Somebody you trust. Maybe somebody who…
7/11 breathing. A skill to use for anxiety. It’s recommended to do it for 10-15 minutes. Like any other skill it does require a lot of practice. I advice that you practice it when you are feeling calm so you are ready in a time of need. If you lose count, which is easily done, simply start again until you do 15 minutes. It will also help with distraction even if you don’t get it right the first hundred times.
Breathing out longer than you breathe in actually activates your parasympathetic nervous system!
Anxiety is your sympathetic nervous system (“fight or flight”) setting off all the alarms, while breathing like this will set the parasympathetic system (“rest and digest”) into action shutting off the alarms and settling your nerves.
Other things that help: laughing, checking out what’s going on around you (moving head and eyes to orient to your surroundings), getting curious about something.
Take care, be safe.
Please use this, guys, it can really help calm you while being triggered and when you’re in a stressful environment.
I also find breathing while counting up and down from five with my fingers really useful. <3 Tumblr, you’re so great sometimes.
Balancing on the Curb
By Sarah Anne Lloyd
When I was a teenager, I had this boyfriend, although he wasn’t a teenager for most of it. We met in class when I was a freshman in high school—he was a second-year senior—when I had a different boyfriend, and he was so supportive, fun, and protective when that…
I wrote this thing.
The Apartment in My Closet
By Jessyca Murphy
We had lit candles and were sitting in a circle. I don’t remember whose turn it was or what question they asked, but I know that Samara picked Truth and that was why she had to tell us. She said her dad had been doing things to her—I don’t remember exactly what those…
See Them All and Name Them All
By Marie Jensen
So I recently published an article about how I’d been raped repeatedly as a teen by my youth pastor, and in the article, I explored how it took me a long time to name what had happened to me, because there hadn’t been a knife to my throat and I hadn’t been…